There is a condition when the person you’re in love with just wants to be friends. It usually happens to nice guys. Women love these men, but “just not in that way”. This is one of the cruelest kinds of love. The one that almost kills its victims. It's called unrequited love. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one-sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! There are the top 20 songs about Unrequited Love.
01. Joan Jett - I Hate Myself for Loving You
I think of you ev'ry night and day / You took my heart, then you took my pride away / I hate myself for loving you / Can't break free from the the things that you do / I wanna walk but I run back to you, that's why / I hate myself for loving you .
02. Berlin - The Metro
I remember the letter wrinkled in my hand / "I'll love you always" filled my eyes / I remember a night we walked along the Seine / riding on the Metro / I remember a feeling coming over me / the soldier turned, then looked away / I remember hating you for loving me / riding on the Metro
03. Chicago Soundtrack - Mr. Cellophane
Cellophane / Mister Cellophane / Shoulda been my name / Mister Cellophane / 'Cause you can look right through me / Walk right by me / And never know I'm there...
04. Air Supply - All Out of Love
And what would you say if I called on you now/ and said that I can't hold on / There's no easy way, it gets harder each day / Please love me or I'll be gone / I'll be gone
05. The Association - Cherish
You don't know how many times I've wished that I had told you / You don't know how many times I've wished that I could hold you / You don't know how many times I've wished that I could mold you / Into someone who could cherish me as much as I cherish you
6. Frankie Valli - My Eyes Adored You
My eyes adored you / Though I never laid a hand on you / My eyes adored you / Like a million miles away from me you couldn't see / How I adored you / So close, so close and yet so far away
7. Crosby Stills & Nash – The Southern Cross
So we cheated and we lied / And we tested / And we never failed to fail / It was the easiest thing to do / You will survive being bested / Somebody fine will come along / Make me forget about loving you / At the Southern Cross.
8. The Mamas and The Papas - Glad to be Unhappy
Unrequited loves a bore, yeah / And I’ve got it pretty bad / But for someone you adore / It’s a pleasure to be sad
9. Linda Rondstandt - Long, Long Time
Living in the memory of a love that never was / Cause I've done everything I know to try and change your mind / and I think I'm gonna miss you for a long long time / Cause I've done everything I know to try and make you mine / And I think I'm gonna love you for a long long time.
10. Nazareth – Love Hurts
Love hurts, love scars / Love wounds, and marks / Any heart, not tough / Or strong, enough / To take a lot of pain / Take a lot of pain / Love is like a cloud / Holds a lot of rain / Love hurts, ooh ooh love hurts
11. The J. Geils Bands – Love Stinks
You love her but she loves him / And he loves somebody else / You just can't win And so it goes / Till the day you die / This thing they call love / It's gonna make you cry / I've had the blues / The reds and the pinks / One thing for sure / Love stinks
12. The Carpenters – All you Get from Love is a Love Song
Oh it's a dirty old shame / when all you get from love is a love song / That's got you layin' up nights just waitin' for the music to start / It's such a dirty old shame when you got to take the blame for a love song / Because the best love songs are written with a broken heart
13. Lionel Richie – Hello
I’ve been alone with you inside my mind / And in my dreams Iv’e kissed your lipsA thousand times / I sometimes see you / pass outside my door / Hello! / Is it me you’re looking for?
14. Ani DiFranco – Untouchable Face
So fuck you and your untouchable face / and fuck you for existing in the first placeAnd who am I that I should be vying for your touch? / And who am I?, I bet you can't even tell me that much
15. Eric Clapton – Layla
Let's make the best of the situation / Before I finally go insane / Please don't say we'll never find a way / And tell me all my love's in vain.
16. Radiohead – Creep
When you were here before / Couldn't look you in the eye / You're just like an angel / Your skin makes me cry / You float like a feather / In a beautiful world / I wish I was special / You're so fuckin' special
17. Rick Springfield – Jessie’s Girl
You know, I wish that I had Jessie's girl / I wish that I had Jessie's girl / Where can I find a woman like that / I play along with the charade / there doesn't seem to be a reason to change / You know, I feel so dirty when they start talking cute / I wanna tell her that I love her / But the point is probably moot
18. Donovan – Catch the Wind
For me to love you now / Would be the sweetest thing, it would make me sing / Ah, but I may as well, try and catch the wind.
19. Meat Loaf – Two Out of Three Ain’t Bad
And all I can do is keep on telling you / I want you / I need you / But -- there ain’t no way I’m ever gonna love you / Now don’t be sad / cause two out of three ain’t bad
20. Smokie – Living Next Door to Alice
Don't know why she's leaving, or where she's gonna go / I guess she's got her reasons but I just don't want to know / 'cos for twenty-four years I've been living next door to Alice / Twenty-four years just waiting for the chance / To tell her how I feel and maybe get a second glance / Now I've got to get used to not living next door to Alice
You're not the only one loving someone who can't/won't love you back. Nice song list though.
ReplyDeleteUnrequited love sucks :\
ReplyDeleteI hate unrequited love :'(
ReplyDelete45 years and I can't stop thinking about her.
ReplyDeleteI see her walking the halls of our high school.
I see her as she is now, and as she was.
Stunningly beautiful, strong, smart, talented, and reservered. Full of life, and the possibility for unequaled joy. If given the chance, I would worship her. The brief moments I spent in her house are seared in my brain. My mouth dry, my tongue tied, my gut in a knot. I know we will never meet again.
I would never allow it.
Such torment. What is the cure?
It would probably help to see her again so you can move on! I hope you found someone new :)
DeleteI know that there are a bunch of written about this subject but here are three that I think should be on the list
ReplyDelete"Piece Of My Heart" by Janis Joplin
Roy Orbison "Crying"
Travelling Wilburys "Congratulations"
i can't forget you.
ReplyDeleteI've never loved someone like this in my life. My heart breaks every time she is with her. I finally had to tell her I was walking away. I cannot continue to invest so much emotional energy in loving someone who loves someone else. Perhaps someday the pain ease...perhaps...
ReplyDeleteWhat can we say about it? Nothing. And nothing will ever happen.
ReplyDeleteBut still. I threw away everything anyway.
Just because he exists.
Look up "Winner at a Losing Game" by rascal flatts.
ReplyDelete"Have you ever had to love someone, who just dont feel the same?"
I love a man so much, and I cannot tell him, for about two years. It kills me as I spend every day with him, wishing I was with him and he has absolutely no idea. I love him so much, and to me, he is the most perfect man on the planet.
ReplyDeleteI think one of the top songs that I've heard about unrequited love is "Beautiful Children" by The Alcatraz Kids. Everytime I listen to it, my eyes water and emotion builds up that I can't quite understand...
ReplyDeleteSeriously, look it up. It's amazing.
I too suffer from the nice guy curse' along with lonely and desperate. Right now I have been involved in a one sided love affair the last few months. In my heart I feel connected to her. But the last time a felt this strongly about someone was over ten years ago and it resulted in one of those lets be friends rejection letters. I still have emotional scars from that rejection. I know there is no hope and there is no way but I still hang on. She has seeing a guy at lunch time for everyday now for the last few months. It kills me when I see them together and there is nothing I can say or do. Sometimes when we talk, she comes from behind a put her hand on my shoulder and I just melt on the inside. She has no idea what she does to me. It has been very hard on me when you have so much emotion locked inside.
ReplyDeleteThe song 'Cherish' by the Association seems to sum up my feelings. There is another old school song by 'The Lettermen' called Turn Around Look At Me describes a guy' heart pleading for attention.
'The 5th Dimension' had a song called Loves,Lines Angles And Rhymes is song with some very haunting verses about love, wants and need and all those things tearing you apart.
I cannot stop thinking about her, you should also look up 'everything you want' by vertical Horizon, it's perfect for all the friend-zoned guys out there.
ReplyDeleteI fell hard for him in 1982... like all good teenage love, it burned hot and strong. We were best friends before we were intimate. Then after highschool, we lived together a few times... But he could see that I would never finish college as long as we were together. He told me no more until i had that diploma. ... then life intervened... another girl, one that was suppose to be a friend of mine, set her eyes on my prize. She woo'd and seduced and got herself pregnant... so he married her.
ReplyDeleteand I spent the next 18 years often in tears... sure, the pain faded a bit over time... I married someone and tried my best to move on...
Then out of nowhere, our songs were playing... a guy moved in next door with the same first name and favorite band... and then I made a rode trip with my dad who asked "whatever happened to HIM" .... the tide was to strong, i had to finally know that he was ok. So i looked for him one more time... like any good geek, i googled for him... and this time, there he was... with photos... 20 years had aged him to a very handsome and rugged man... my heart raced... and i sent a terse email, and he responded in minutes... and we started a real dialog, and then i went to see him, and I knew, without a doubt, that my heart still sang his song... but this time, it was also clear that he was singing my song. So i divorced (finalized in 3 weeks) left everything (which really was nothing) and came home to love... We are getting married Sept 5, 2010
Unrequited Love hate it my heart is broken
ReplyDeleteI have loved this man since I was 19. He was my first and we didn't meet under the best circumstances - I was drunk. So immediately we got off on the wrong foot. And the fact that I slept with him within a week didn't help matters. He didn't even know he was my first then and even now I cant explain how & why this man bowled me over so easily. My entire college years were tainted because of my obsession with him. He eventually slept with a friend and even then I went back to him. Then his girl caught us together naked. Drama.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is I know I deserve better, that he is using me. But I would rather to be used by him than to not have him in my life. How sick is that??
I moved away for 5 years and during that time I had 2 relationships. The first one loved me so much I got scared, felt like a fraud and left him. What did he see in me to love me so much when the one who had my heart cared naught? The second one just didn't work out. Then I moved back to his city and immediately started sleeping with him again.
I am not a promiscuous woman, but surely he must think so because I give it to him without the slightest provocation. I am 28 years old. I know what to look for in a man but I just cant settle for anyone but him. Over the weekend I went to a party and he was there. As i stepped in, he immediately started gazing off in the distance, pretending not to see me. And we pretended not to see each other when I went to the bar to get a drink and he was standing 4 people away. And we completely ignored each other as 5 people away he was dancing with some chick. Yeah - I didn't see him, he didn't see me. Then as I was leaving, he "saw" me, came over, hugged me somewhat stiffly and we exchanged 2 or 3 sentences of pleasantries. I almost laughed I swear. As if less than a month earlier he wasn't at my house all night, didn't come inside me 5 times between the evening he arrived and mid-morning when he left.
I know ... I really do. But how do you tell your stubborn heart what your head, every iota of your being knows so well? And I am villianising him - he's so sweet when we are together. And smart and perceptive and good looking and he makes my body sing.
So that's my dilemma. Sometimes it hurts so much that no one can make me forget him, that he doesn't care. But this is my fate.
I've fallen for a guy I met through my friends. He has been playing this "I want you this week, but next week I will act like you don't exist" thing for almost 5 months. He says he wants to be open to other people. I would give anything in this world for him...
ReplyDeleteI have lost my mind for a woman who lives six hundred miles from me. Last time I saw her, the best I could push out of my chest and into the open air was, "I think you're amazing." That was it . . . after all the pining, the time apart (never together really?) that's the best I could do. How to kill fear . . .
ReplyDeleteForgive me for I have a long post. It’s coming up on a year on my relationship(what a Joke !!). I’m still in love with woman who does not see me as I see her. Her desk is only a couple of aisles over from my desk. Once a week or maybe twice a week I talk to her. You know something; I think she has been over to talk to my desk twice to see me in about a year. I should be able to read the signs by now. Holding out hope has been a painful process. Pretending not to care about while you really do is very painful. I’m jealous and there nothing I can do when she goes out to lunch with a guy from another area. I don’t what is worse, the pain I get when I see her or the pain of not seeing her. I should be smarter but I’m not. I have dream that I catch her in private moment and tell her about my feelings. In my dreams, it all ends happy but I know it won’t. I’m trying to begin the process of avoiding her. I know she won’t miss me the way I’ll miss her. Maybe that a good thing she does not know, it would spare her any embarrassment.
ReplyDeleteI would never do anything to hurt her, because she will always be in my heart.
Bonnie Raitt's I Can't Make You Love Me.
ReplyDeleteUnrequited love pretty much sums up the last two or three years of my life at high school. No matter who I fall in love with, I always seem to be outdone by the "stronger man", or my own foolishness. Just recently I asked this amazing girl to go see a movie with me. She said yes, But I soon realized that it was as a friend. As it turns out, she's dating some guy in college. Who can play the Guitar. I haven't told her how I feel, but lately I think that she may hae an idea, and that makes everything worse.
ReplyDeleteShe's all I could ever want
And all I can never have.
My unrequited love song - Decorate by Yuna
ReplyDeleteHeartbreaking.
So you decided to see me out of the blue
Should I let you come over?
I think you're doing fine
That girl in your arms,
does she know where you come from?
Almost made me move out of town
You don't want me to be around
But I stayed anyway..
just in case
Finding reasons to hate you more than before
Like how you said you would call
But never at all..
got rid off your number
that I know by heart
You left your things at my place
As if I have all the space
cause you know I don't mind
Just come back when you think it's time
I'm all black and white inside
Monotonous from left to right
I decorate my house with things you love
Just in case you show up..
in case you show up
It just freaking hurts. I love this man so much. When we are together he love me too, when we're not I don't exist. I hate that I love him.
ReplyDeleteI have fallen in love with the most beautiful women I have ever met - but she's married. And although I can see it in her eyes that she feels the same way, she's too religious and conservative to ever leave her jerk of a husband. I would do ANYTHING for this girl!!!
ReplyDeleteI miss her a lot since she moved to another department.For her,I'm glad she got promoted. I work in a fairly large office building. I have not talked to her or see her in over a month. All I do now is hurt all the time. The constant cycle of yearning and hurting is tearing me apart.
ReplyDeleteI feel like I'm trapped in a nightmare that I don't want to wake up from. If I do, he will disappear forever.
ReplyDeleteWe dated in HS for a brief time, I was crazy in love with him even then. I remember telling my mom he was the one. I knew it. I cried for days when he broke it off. Didn't even understand why.
20 years passed. I got married, had a family. But, he was always my "what if". Happened to mention him to a friend and started to wonder how he was. What if?....
I found him online. We talked. We meet for lunch. 20 years felt like 20 days. It was as if time had stood still. He was just as handsome, and still made my heart leap out of my chest. When he hugged me, touch me... then we kissed.
He confessed he felt the same way. All those years, he had dreamed of me, wanted me. He said every time he thought about me, his chest ached. He told me why all those years ago he had broken my heart. His ex-girlfriend was pregnant. He felt so guilty and ashamed, he stayed with her even after she got an abortion. He ended up marrying her. That bitch is his wife!
Our love affair began. It was crazy and hot and and insane. Most of the time, we didn't even get all our clothes off. He made me feel amazing.
I asked for a divorce, he didn't have the guts. I would have given it all up, given anything to love him. He told me he would always, always love me, but he couldn't leave. Too religious, too convicted. Still too guilty to love me openly.
So he went back to dreaming. Living a lie. Loving me in his heart, but sleeping in her bed. What I would give to be her. Every day, I wish I was the one he was coming home to. Every day, I cry because I miss him. I just want to hold him, feel his warmth, kiss his lips.
And I let him break my heart twice. 20 years apart, same damn thing. How do I get over that?
The following words are from a song , I heard a long time ago. I don't know who sang or wrote the song but it sums up my sad attempts at love and romance for so many years.
ReplyDeleteThere ain't nobody hangin' around the corner anymore
Everybody has a place to be
There ain’t nobody hangin’ around the corner anymore
Nobody, Nobody but me
Love slip through my fingers like a summer sand
Now I’m back where I started from with my heart in my hand
There ain’t nobody hangin’ around the corner anymore
Everybody has a place to be
There ain’t nobody hangin’ around the corner anymore
Nobody, Nobody but me
I have sat next to this guy at work for a year now. We talk everyday, pretty much all day long. He hasn't been in a relationship the whole time I have known him cause he has really high standards about women. Over the last year I have began to feel some deep feelings for him. He is everything I could want in a man, the only thing is he doesn't believe in getting involved with someone you work with and I am married. Have been for 8 years.
ReplyDeleteHe was there for me when I left my husband 4 months ago. He listened and helped me threw my pain, the only reason I went back is cause I don't want to be another divorce statistic and I thought I could make it work.
Here I am 2 months back home with my husband and its still the same and want my co-worker more than ever and I wonder every second of the day, am I the one keeping us apart by my marriage or even if i was divorced would he even see me in that light?
Check out "Unrequited Love" by My Brave Love. It's available on i-tunes, CD Baby, Amazon, etc. and you can hear the whole song free on You Tube.
ReplyDeleteI met Michael when I was 10. Oh, how a first crush can feel! We knew each other in middle school and high school. He kissed me one day when I was 14, but he thought I was "relationship material" (not what he wanted at he time). We lost touch after high school.
ReplyDeleteFast forward 25 years. We reconnected online. He's married with 3 kids, I'm married to a great guy with 2 children. No way in hell would I ever wreck our respective lives. We live in the same town, and have seen each other several times. The spark, the connection is still there. It hurts that I can't be with him, spend time with him, share mundane little things with him. I want him so badly, yet it is not meant to be. Right? Can feelings so strong about someone really go unfulfilled? I can love him from afar...and for now it has to be enough.
I am married, 3 kids, and at work I have met the most perfect man for me, six years ago before my last two children came I met this man, he made my heart beat the moment that I spoke with him, still to this day he makes my knees buckle when I see him, when I hear his voice my heart aches for him, we kissed one night, it was the best feeling that I have ever had, there is something about this man, did I mention that he was 14 years older then I am, he is older then my step father, it's insane I know, but I can't seem to walk away..
ReplyDeleteWe lost touch for a couple months, we haven't talked, texted or anything, it hurt so bad, yesterday I got a text from him, my heart started to pump he wants to meet to talk, I so badly want to just jump in again head first, I'm afraid..
The perfect song to sum up our one spectacular night together "Just a Kiss" from Lady Antebellum
should love be requited? you have the feelings but others have the definitions, i think its where the agony lies..
ReplyDeleteI've worked with Ryan for a year now, and he's just so nice and lovely, my only issue is every other person that works with me also thinks he nice and loving, and i'm certainly not the best looking or funnest out of them. Every hour I work with him, I feel like I would do anything he wanted, and he's so lovely you can't help but love him, but we rarely even talk because i'm so nervous around him. Every night I tell myself he's far too good for me but I can't think about anyone else. I've been on one date since and I couldn't even look at the guy I was with because he wasn't Ryan. I haven't told him about it because I know he's just so nice he wouldn't be able to look or talk to me again properly, and he wouldn't be able to put me down so I guess it's just me loving him for the rest of my life then.
ReplyDeleteI was married to my beloved husband and we loved and cherished ourselves for good 2years and every thing was going on smoothly but april 5, 2013 we both had misunderstanding and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and I begged him because I love him so much but he refused me I was so down cast and I felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back, a good job and favor in any of her endeavor but at first I was scared but I have to give this man a trial because I love my husband very much and I am not willing to loose him to any woman, so I ordered returning love spell from this great spell caster that made me a happy woman again to say it all my husband came back to me with much love and a caring heart...i am testifying to this great spell caster of Ishvara temple you are a great man in this world and you mean so much to me you are the best spell caster that i have ever hear off in all website contact this man via this email if you really need to get your problems solve ishvaratemple@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteOne that belongs in every such list but is oddly absent from most I've seen is "You Could Have Been With Me" by Sheena Easton. GREAT song. A beautifully produced track that is as poignant instrumentally as it is lyrically.
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ReplyDeleteWhat can I say , through out my sad life I never really had a girl-friend. I have had several pathetic attempts but no luck. Or at best just friends. I’m at point of my life I seem to have 2 kinds of pain: alone and miserable or with someone and be miserable. I admit I have prototype nerd looks & personality although I do like sports. My younger sister tried to help me introduce her to couple of her friends. No luck. Even my cousin tried to help me out a few years back. No luck. My latest setback is particularly sad or funny. A lady at my job I had known for several years I was very much attracted to. I felt a strong connection. When we shared the same cubicle for a couple of years, I felt good going to work. Those times meant a lot to me. Also, I felt frustrated that she would not take me seriously. Last year around April, she retired from her job. I was devastated. What was sad or funny she wanted to go out with me but she arranged it that one of her male friends was going to be there also. Being desperate, I accepted the invitation, Well, it never happened. She changed her mind at the last minute for whatever reason. What really made me depressed that there was no chance to say goodbye , no hug , no handshake, nothing. No phone number, address or e-mail. It has been about a year since that happened & I’m still broken up about it. It’s kind of sad. I don’t sleep well at all. My friends, family and co-workers think everything is ok with me. The song I think about related to my situation is the song ‘Tears of a Clown’ by Smokey Robinson. The following words ring true ’ In my lonely room , I cry the tears of a clown when no one is around’
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